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Thomas Kinslow Obituary

Thomas R. "Tommy" Kinslow, 20, passed away November 22, 2005 in Colorado Springs, Colorado. Tommy was born April 9, 1985 in Colorado Springs to Frank and Pam Kinslow. Tommy was a 2003 graduate of Harrison High School where he was listed in the "Who's Who of High School Students" for two years. Currently he is a student at Pikes Peak Community College and is employed by Hollywood Video. Tommy loves all sports, especially basketball and bowling. He enjoys playing video games. Tommy is an avid fan of the Dallas Cowboys and the North Carolina Tar Heels. Tommy is survived by his parents, Frank and Pam Kinslow; his sister, Mindy Kinslow; grandparents, Tom and Etta Kinslow all of Colorado Springs; aunts, Linda (Tom) Tomlinson, Anne Kinslow, Debbie Chadwick and numerous cousins. Visitation will be held Saturday, November 26, 2005 from 2:00 - 6:00 p.m. at Swan Law Funeral Directors, 501 N. Cascade Avenue, Colorado Springs. Services will be Tuesday, November 29, 2005 at 1:00 p.m., First United Methodist Church, 420 N. Nevada Avenue, Colorado Springs, Colorado, followed by burial at Evergreen Cemetery, 1005 S. Hancock Avenue, Colorado Springs. Memorial contributions may be made to the American Heart Association, c/o Pediatric Research in Tommy's name.

Published by The Gazette on Nov. 26, 2005.
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Tommy is always remembered in our house and the many happy times he spent with us when he was growing up. He and Red were good friends.
Remember visiting him in the hospital after heart surgery and Red wanted to pick out a toy for him to play with while he was recovering.
He had so much to give in life and a life taken too soon.

Richard and Paula Deems

Friend

November 20, 2023

Another year....it´s been a long 17 years and still no answers. I miss you and the easy going person that you were. I miss hanging out at the hookah bar or hanging out at your pool. Tommy, you were such a gentle giant and it´s not fair that you´re gone. Your kids and my kids should be growing up together.
Just know that I think of you and your family daily. And one day, they will have the answers and be able to bring the person who did this to you to justice.
Miss and love you, my friend. Till we meet again.

Ashley Martinez

Family

November 24, 2022

The memory of Tommy as a little boy in elementary school and playing baseball with Red at the park and in the youth league before going to high school are in my mind right now They had so much fun growing up.
Also thinking about the time we had conversation how nice he was and hearing my son was nice there but they were both rotten at home so we were shocked to hear how nice they had been somewhere else. They at least knew to behave outside the house
Our hearts are still sad to think at what a fine young man he would have become and your loss.

Richard and Paula Deems

Friend

November 20, 2022

Been thinking of Tommy and what a fine young man he would have grown up to be. He was a good kid and a good friend to our son growing up and a pleasure to have at our home always.

Richard and Paula Deems

Friend

April 11, 2022

Jodie mosley

Other

November 24, 2021

Hope they gt justice fr u

Jodie mosley

Other

November 24, 2021

Rip

Jodie mosley

Other

November 24, 2021

Our thoughts are with all of Tommy's family right now. He spent a lot of time at our house growing up and we saw him become a fine young man. He is not forgotten by any of us.

Richard and Paula Deems

Friend

November 21, 2021

Miss you Tom! Remember the memorial steelers of 8th grade! That team was dominant. Miss playing ball at pikes peak and hillside.. just dumb stuff we used to do together. You're never gonna be forgotten bro. we all love and miss you!

Red Deems

Friend

November 20, 2021

We are thinking of the whole family right now and let you know we treasure our memories of Tommy. He will not be forgotten by our family and was a great kid when when he was growing up. We remember baseball games and football games and just hanging out and playing basketball all the time. May happy memories fill your days.

Richard and Paula Deems

Friend

November 22, 2020

Thinking of Tommy and the whole family today. He always had a smile on his face at our house and remember well watching him grow up. Laughed when he learned to drive and Red told him he was learning to "steer" since it was an automatic and we only owned standard cars and he had to learn with a clutch. Remembered visiting him in the hospital with his heart surgery and how Red was glad to see he was ok. Miss his smiling face too and he is not forgotten.

Richard And Paula Deems

Friend

November 22, 2019

Tommy is remembered as his birthday passed. He is remembered by all who knew him for the sweet kid he was.

Richard and Paulla Deems

April 10, 2019

Happiest birthday angel friend. Please keep looking over your family and friends but dont forget to celebrate this day, though its not with us. We miss and love you so much. Happy 34th birthday Tommy!

Ashley Martinez

Friend

April 9, 2019

Tommy,
I miss you friend! It was odd that your angelversary was on Thanksgiving this year....Thanksgiving, a time when you should be sharing an awesome dinner with your family. But yet, it's another year that you're gone and your family and loved ones continue to pray for the person that killed you to be caught. Justice needs to be served. And we continue to pray for that day to come sooner rather than later.
I just want you to know that we won't ever give up. We want you to have justice. It will happen. I know it will.
We miss you lots. Continue to watch over all of us. Love you!

Ashley Colborn

November 24, 2018

Thinking of Tommy and Pan and Frank and the family today. You are always in our hearts and thoughts.

Richard and Paula Deems

November 22, 2018

Thinking of Tommy today and remembering his smile and how he was so polite at our house and how we would laugh at that fact and my kid was nice at his!

Paula Deems

Friend

April 9, 2018

Happy Thanksgiving Tommy! I know you're up there, keeping an eye on us.
I miss you, your family misses you, your friends miss you. We are always waiting, praying and hoping that justice will be found for you. We all think of you and love you. I hope you know that.
Love you much Tommy. Thinking of you always.

Ashley Colborn

November 23, 2017

Thinking of you today and remembering Tommy and his smile that brightened our home.

Paula and Richard Deems

Neighbor

November 22, 2017

This day is so hard, more so for your family, but hard nonetheless. I miss your optimism and shy smile. You were always there to lift up your friends. Such a bright light you were. I miss you a lot.
One of these days, justice will finally be served, and you'll be able to rest in peace. I'll always pray for that and always pray for God to keep a close watch on your family.
Love and miss you Tommy. Please continue to watch over those who love you.

Ashley Colborn

November 22, 2016

Thinking of Tommy and the Kinslow family at this time of year as the anniversary of Tommy's death. May there be justice and may them find who did this to help give peace to all. Paula and Richard.

November 20, 2016

Happy 31st birthday Tommy! We went to the cemetery and put flowers and balloons out, but we would much rather have had cake and a party with you here. Life is hard without you, but we go on because we know that's what you want. We will not rest until we find the monster who took you from us, but we could use a little guidance! We love and miss you so very much. You will never be forgotten!
Love,
Dad and Mom

Pam Kinslow

April 10, 2016

You are not forgotten.

November 22, 2015

May the happy memories fill all who remember Tommy this April.

Richard and Paula Deems

April 10, 2015

Happy 30th birthday. We miss and love you sooo much.
Love,
Dad and Mom

Frank/Pam Kinslow

April 9, 2015

Happy birthday Tommy! I know that birthdays in Heaven have to be pretty awesome, but I wish you were here to celebrate amongst family and friends. However, I know you are with us each day, and just because we can't physically talk to you, doesn't mean that you aren't listening when we pray. I miss you very much my dear friend. Keep an eye out over all of us down here, okay? Love you!

Ashley Martinez (Colborn)

April 9, 2014

Hi Tommy!

I'm not exactly sure why, but as of late, you have been heavily on my mind. Perhaps it's because I miss having a good guy friend like you. You always were ready to lend an ear. :-) Don't think that you're not ever on my mind-that's not the case. Just more so lately for some reason. I hope life in paradise is everything that we all imagine it to be. Just want you to know that I miss you!

Love ya!

Ashley (Colborn) Martinez

January 15, 2014

Hey Tom, saw your mom on tv not too long ago man, we miss you bro! It's been so long and I still haven't seen your grave. Just tough for me, I like to remember all the good times. I still tell stories of our 8th grade football team and how good we were. Love you .Hey Pam I hope you see this, I saw a show that's on TNT called cold justice and they are looking for cold case files. Go to their website. I hope this helps!

Red Deems

January 13, 2014

Hey Tommy.

First, I would like to wish you a Happy Belated Birthday. I imagine that birthdays in Heaven are awesome, but it would be even better if you were still here so we could celebrate with you.
You are always in my thoughts, and I know you hear me flooding Heaven with prayers, especially for you and your family. I miss you. You were such a good friend and good person overall.
I came across an old photo album, and in the back of the album was a few pages I had put pics of you and James in. I remember how much fun the three of us had.
Just know that I still miss you, and I know you watch over all those you were close to. Thank you for being a good friend and for the memories I still have. Love you.

Ashley (Colborn) Martinez

April 11, 2013

Hey tom. Just to let you know, everything is going go in my life. I went through alot since the last time we talked, its been a long ride to were I'm at now. Every time I needed someone to talk to I looked up and asked for you. For all these years you have guided me in the right path and I will always thank you for that. There been some days I just wanted to give up, but you gave me strength to keep fighting.
I am now married and buiding my dream home, I am a dad and honestly I became a great father. You gave me the strength to be a better person and a good father. I'm doin my best, just like you showed me. Happy bday Tom, happy bday my best friend and happy bday to my angel. Thank you for everything bro. Love you.

James Strover

April 10, 2013

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April 9, 1985 - November 22, 2005

Sending Birthday Wishes To Heaven

Tommy,
It's hard to believe you would have been 28 today, but in our minds you will always be 20. That is how young you were when you were taken so violently from us. We remember the day you were born, how happy we were to have a little boy with our little girl. You were such a good baby and then you turned 2. You were still a good boy, but you were all boy and stubborn. I don't think I had ever seen such a stubborn 2 year old. When you started kindergarten you loved school, you loved to learn and loved to play, so much so that you never missed a day of school in grade school, you earned a basketball for that accomplishment. Then came middle school, where you still loved school and playing, but playing won out a few times over school and so came the visits to the principal. Summers were spent playing football, basketball and baseball. High school was suddenly upon you and us. There were dances, sports, girls, learning to drive and jobs. You still loved learning and had dreams of becoming a math teacher. Finally graduation was here. Some of your friends went off to college in other states, but you stayed here to go to PPCC to get the core classes before moving on. You lived at home, went to PPCC, worked at Hollywood Video and loved your family and friends. Then the memories stop, because you were taken from us. There are so many more memories, good and bad, but there is only such much room to write. We are so proud of you and your accomplishments and we love you more than you will ever know. Our birthday wish for you is justice. Justice may not come this year, but it will come because we will never give up until you get it. So, Happy Birthday Tommy, we love you.

Tommy was killed November 22, 2005 on Constitution Ave. near Academy Blvd. His killer is still free. If you have any information about who took Tommy from us, please call Colorado Springs Police Department or Crime Stoppers.

mom-n-dad kinslow

April 9, 2013

After all these years I still have your same number in my phone. I miss u bud. Thank you for guiding me....... I need it.

James Strover

April 11, 2012

Our thoughts are with you as Tommy's birthday is still marked on our calendar each year. Please know we have not forgotten.

Paula and Richard Deems

April 10, 2012

Happy Birthday Tommy, Today would have been your 27th Birthday. We will celebrate all the missed birthdays when we are all together again. For now, you can celebrate with both Papas, grandma and aunt Karen. We love and miss you so very much.

Dad and Mom

April 9, 2012

Its been a long time since ive seen you T.K but your always with me. I miss you, you are my best friend and the only friend I had that never judged me for anything. I will never forget you.... See you later

James Strover

November 22, 2011

Tommy-
I miss you! Not a day goes by that you don't cross my mind. I miss your kind words and good company. I'll continue to pray for justice for you and your family. Love you friend!

Ashley Colborn-Martinez

November 22, 2011

SO SAD TO SEE A LIFE CUT SHORT DUE TO SUCH TRAGIDY! I ONLY HOPE IT IS EASIER IN THE AFTERLIFE . MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS TO THE FAMILY AND FRIENDS.

VICKI OWENS

April 16, 2011

happy 26th, was at your site yesterday,new flowers and bunny,told mom your too old for a bunny but she think's your never too old. miss you lot's love ya, mom&dad

frank-pam kinslow

April 10, 2011

Whats up man?...Its been hard for me coming to the realization that your never coming back, I still havent been to see your grave. I keep tellin myself I will but havent been able to yet. You been on my mind alot. All of ours actually. New years we toasted to you. I was lookin at some info on your case recently. You already know what I was thinkin, but I have to leave it up to god. It's like I still remember your voice, like I could just call you up and go dapp you up and we could kick it again. I'll always miss you bro!

Red Deems

January 9, 2011

Pam, I always think of your beautiful Son at this time of year and send prayers to your family,

Rose Norvell

Rosemary Norvell

November 23, 2010

It's been 5 long years today, we miss Tommy so much,think about him all the time, we thank all of you for the kind message's and write any time you want, god bless, Pam & Frank

Pam and Frank Kinslow

November 22, 2010

NATIONAL DAY OF REMEMBRANCE
FOR HOMICIDE VICTIMS
Acacia Park
115 E. Platte Ave.
Colorado Springs, CO
Saturday
September 25, 2010
4 – 6 pm

Frank and Pam Kinslow

August 31, 2010

to a wonderful person miss you Tommy love Ingrid

Ingrid Kinser

May 19, 2010

Tommy-
Miss you so very much! Could use some words of advice from you right now.
Love you and your family always.

Ashley Colborn

April 23, 2010

Tommy its been awhile but you are always in my thoughts and your family in my prayers. We miss you so very much!

Sarah Smith

April 13, 2010

Tommy, I didn't know you but when I heard what happened I was deeply saddened. I was thinking here it is a young man trying to make the best of things financially and with your life and this goes and happens. I'm so very sorry. I do honestly say a prayer for you every night as you know.

To0 Tommy's family, I know it's been about 4 years now. I am so very sorry for your loss. You are in my prayers as well.

Shelly

April 10, 2010

Again, it has been awhile since I have visited this. I look at it now and then to see what people write. Right now, as I go through the daily struggle of trying to get my life back on track, I always think of you and how much fun we had. I miss you a lot Tommy-always praying for you and your family.
I hope this finds everyone doing well. I am glad I saw you guys over Christmas-I miss you very much. I will get in contact with you and see about doing dinner or something. Miss y'all and much love.
Tommy-Love ya!

Ashley Colborn

February 19, 2010

I went to High school with Tommy, and he was such a sweet heart, and very caring. He was such a great friend to have through the years and after. I'm so sorry to hear about what had happen to Tom. I should of wrote four years ago, but it was such a shock what happen to him I just didn't know what to say or how to say the right words. I pray and hope that his close family and friends stay strong, and that justice will be served through Christ. If you need any prayer at all let me know and I will. Well you take care and God bless

Sofia Mundo (Casarez)

November 28, 2009

As you probably know on November 22, it will be 4 years since Tommy was murdered. We are going to have a candle light vigil at 7 p.m. on Sunday November 22 at 3914 Constitution Ave. Friends and family will have the opportunity to share a memory or just a light a candle. Everyone is welcome. If you are unable to come, just light a candle and think of happy times you shared.

Frank and Pam

November 5, 2009

Happy belated Birthday. And Happy Easter! You are in my thoughts daily and I pray for you and your family. I cannot express enough about how much I miss you...wish you were here. Love and miss ya...

To Frank, Pam, and Mindy: I hope you have a blessed Easter. Take care.

Ashley Colborn

April 12, 2009

Happy 24th Birthday Tommy. We miss you so very much! We pray that by your 25th birthday, justice will be served and someone will be in prison! We love you!
Mom and Dad

Frank and Pam

April 9, 2009

Hey Tom, I know its been awhile man but I always keep you in my thoughts. Super Bowl comin up man...no cowboys..but my steelers made it. Miss you man... hard to find good friends ya know!.. Love RED

Red Deems

January 30, 2009

It has been forever since I've last looked at this. I just got done reading through the entries, and right now, I have tears in my eyes...if you only knew how much I miss you, Tommy. You could have definitely helped me the past few years, especially with last year-of course you saw how hard last year was for me. I could have really used your kind words to get me through everything. And even though James and I are no longer together, I know you watch the two of us...
Its crazy, because after you died, things changed so much, especially with me and James. I can still say he has yet to find a best friend-you were his. And I know that if you were around, you would have helped us through that time...
I miss you, I love you, and I know you watch over us-you are part of the reason I got out of my accident with just bruises. Keep watching out for me, for your family, for James and everyone.

I miss you: Pam, Frank and Mindy-take care. You guys and Tommy are always in my thoughts and prayers.

Ashley Colborn

January 29, 2009

Merry Christmas Tommy. We miss you and love you so very much.

Love,
Mom and Dad

Pam kinslow

December 25, 2008

Frank and Pam, I have not forgoten Tommy;
May God Bless,

Terry Lantz

December 3, 2008

To the Kinslow family,
I pray faithfully for justice for Tommy and all our loved ones. Your angel is not far and watching with pride as you keep his memory alive. God Bless
Kay mom of
Joshua Delaney

Kay Crawford

November 22, 2008

April 9, 1985 - November 22, 2005
The Loss Of A Child
The moment that I knew you had died, My heart split in two. The one side filled with memories, The other died with you. I often lay awake at night, When the world is fast asleep, And take a walk down memory lane, With tears upon my cheek. Remembering you is easy, I do it every day, But missing you is a heartache, That never goes away. I hold you tightly within my heart, And there you will remain, Life has gone on without you, But it never will be the same.
We love and miss you. mom & dad

pam & frank kinslow

November 22, 2008

TOMMY,
I miss you so much. I know that you and grandpa are up there talking about who football team is better. Yesterday was a really hard day. I can't belive that it has been two years. I just wanted to tell you that I love you very much.

Mindy Kinslow

November 23, 2007

I miss ya Thomas. :)

Lorna Digan

April 10, 2007

Hey Tommy! I know it is a day late, but Happy Birthday! I was definitely thinking about you. Miss and love ya!

Ashley Colborn

April 10, 2007

Hi bro. Happy b-day. I miss you and love you very much.

Mindy Kinslow

April 9, 2007

Our deepest sympathies go out to the entire Kinslow Family. Such a tragic loss of a loved one, especially a son, should never have to be endured by such wonderful parents and family members. Unfortunately we never had the opportunity to meet Thomas jr. If he was anything like his parents you must have been very proud. We are sure you have a lifetime of wonderful memories to cherish that will keep Thomas in your hearts forever.

Dwayne and the Hemphill Family

February 16, 2007

"I'm not Here"

Don't stand by my grave and weep,
For I'm not there, I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond's glint on the snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn's rain.
When you awaken in morning's hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush.
Of quiet birds in circle flight,
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there, I did not die."
-Author?
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I found this in the paper the other day, and it moved me. I wanted to share it with you guys.

Ashley Colborn

January 16, 2007

The Broken Chain

"We little knew that morning,
that God was going to call your name,
In life we loved you dearly,
in death we do the same.
It broke our hearts to lose you,
you did not go alone;
for part of us went with you,
the day that God called you home.
You left us peaceful memories,
your love is still our guide;
and though we cannot see you,
you are always at our side.
Our family chain is broken,
and nothing seems the same;
but as God calls us one by one,
the chain will link again."
-Anonymous
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I promised to put this on here, and I finally did. I hope that this poem offers some comfort to you, Pam, Frank and Mindy. I know it offered comfort for us. I have a picture of Tommy on my webpage, if you guys would like to look.
We love you guys.

Ashley Colborn

January 12, 2007

To the Kinslow Family,

I have known Tom since I was in the 3rd grade all the way up into High School. Tom was a great guy and a pure gentlemen. When I saw the news on TV, I was in shock. I believe that Tom is in a better place now. I believe that he is watching over us and smiling because he knows how many people love him and miss him. My deepest sympathies go out to you and your loved ones. I miss Tom dearly and my thoughts and prayers go out to you.

Tracy Berry

January 5, 2007

Tom,
Geez, I know its been a long time...time has flown by and I haven't been able to keep up with it. I've been so busy with work and school, but trust me, I have not forgotten about you. My life has been a whirlwind of hustle and bustle, but I'm always thinking about you. I hope that you got my prayers of having a good Christmas and a Happy New Year...actually, I know you got it. Sometimes I don't know what the heck is going on just because there is a lot on my plate, but you are always there in my mind. But what I get scared of, as time passes by, is not being able to remember your voice or your words of advice. I get scared of the fact that James will never find a friend like you to trust. But I know you are always by our sides, and that you are with everyone that loves you. You are our protector and there is a poem that I will have to put on here later today, because I don't have it with me. My dad gave it to me and James, because he knew that we miss you terribly and that we love you so much. I just want you to know that we love you still, and though time goes on, your self-lessness and good heart will always be with us. Happy Holidays Tommy. Love you.

Ashley Colborn

January 4, 2007

It looks like its been a long time since somebody has last dropped a line. I always find myself thinking about you and what happened. It plays through my mind so much. But I always remember the good times and that makes it easier to deal with. We miss you, and I know we always say that, but its just a fact. And it gets closer to that day it happened, and I just want you to know that you are not forgotten. We are always thinking about you and your family. We miss you lots. Love you.

Ashley Colborn

September 11, 2006

Well, I've tried to make an entry several times, but for some reason, they don't go through. I guess typing out all the emotions is good for me though, but maybe too sad to post. Watching Tommy grow up since 2nd grade with Red was so much fun...and so aggrevating. Poor Pam and Frank! I know those two boys kept us going! We laughed and wanted to lock them in their rooms sometimes too. They were such good friends. I miss Tommy most when Red comes home from college and everyone else comes around the house again, except Tommy. I keep expecting him to be there too. But he won't be. Our hearts ache for your loss always and you are in our thoughts and prayers. Paula & Richard

Paula Deems

July 26, 2006

I do not know if you remember me well homie its Mike your old neighbor and good friend. Cannot believe that this happen to you. You were a good kid and all around awesome friend. It hurts to hear that your gone this is the first time I have heard of this. I remember watching you grow up all through high school those were some good memories. So many good memories with you when we first met. I wish you happy belated b-day hope you are doing well your in a better place. To Frank, Pam and Mandy I am very sorry for your loss. He was a great kid with a good heart. Well man I will be thinking about you now that I know. I do not know what else to say except I will not forget you.

Michael Perez

July 6, 2006

Months have gone by, and I still remember coming over to go swimming or going to Ft. Carson to go bowling, or of course, going to smoke Hookah. And its not easy going day to day, wondering about why we haven't heard from you, and remembering that you are in a better place right now. I miss you and I know James misses you. But we still think of you everyday, and we always miss you. We talk about you and we reminiscence about the ol' days. We are always going to be missing you, but I know that we will see each other again. Love you.

Ashley Colborn

June 7, 2006

hey.... im lost for words, i havent seen you or even heard of you in the last pass mouths, but i know that your ok, i really miss you.... i only had one friend in my life that understood me, and it was you. i wake up everyday just wondering what your doing with your new life, you dont know how it feels losing your only friend. man but you wanna know something? ive been pushing myself everyday to make my life better,ive been being a better person to all around me, ive been doing my best to make everyone happy all around me, becasue i wanna be a better person, like you was. when someone really close to you passes away doesnt it seem like everyone wants to change? its true because if you was still around ill still be goofing off and making you laugh all the time and most of all being a positive friend.... but i can see that i have changed alot, im not myself anymore, i dont really talk as much as i used to, i just dont have fun. you was the only person that would bring a smile to my face, when you was beating me in madden. i just want to feel that again, your my home boy and you always will. so im just writing you today saying that im sorry that i didnt get to say good bye....... bye.

james strover

June 4, 2006

Whats up Tom? Ever since I could remember we always was at each others birthday parties. We went bowling once and played lazer tag and had water fights but this time I couldn't be there to celebrate with your fam so I released a balloon in your memory out here. Happy 21st wish you were here!!!!

Red Deems

April 10, 2006

Our prayers and thoughts are with your whole family.



from the Heaton Family

Darleen Heaton

April 9, 2006

Hey this is James. Hello buddy. 21 already...you beat me to it! But just to let you know I'm doing alright and planning out my future with Ashley, in case you forgot. But I know that you already know whats going on with my life and I know you're laughing at me. But even though its hard for me to show my feelings, and hard for to express them, you know that I miss you lots. And if you was here, I wouldn't have a win streak in Madden. All I'm trying to say that I miss your company and nobody will take your place as being my best friend. Love, James.

James Strover

April 9, 2006

We are Tommy's parents. As some of you may know, his 21st birthday is Sunday April 9. We are going to have a balloon release at Evergreen Cemetery in his honor on Sunday, April 9 at 2 o'clock. We will be in the area behind the office. Any of his friends or coworkers who would like to participate are welcome to come or if you want to release a balloon on your own, that is okay too. We know he has many friends who miss him. There will also be a chance for people to talk about a special memory they have of him if they want to. We will provide the balloons. We would also like to thank everyone who has shared their memories and their thoughts here. We check this site daily and it means a lot to us that people care so much. We never want him to be forgotten, but remembered with happy memories. Thanks again to everyone.

Pam and Frank Kinslow

April 5, 2006

Hey Tommy, I got so used to seeing you at school everyday that I still catch myself looking around for you. Your birthdays in a few days and even though I may not make it when everyone else is there Im going to come see you in the morning. I miss you buddy! Ima never forget that goofy laugh of yours. Love ya Always, Sarah

Sarah Smith

March 31, 2006

Another month is almost gone, and it still feels like I saw you yesterday. I really miss you, Tommy. And your birthday is coming soon, and don't worry, we will be there to celebrate it. We are always thinking of you, and I know as I write this, you are watching over us. Love you!!

Ashley Colborn

March 28, 2006

Well it looks like a new year is passing us by quickly and I still miss my friend and will never forget ya man. I'll be thinking bout you over this spring break. See ya later

Red Deems

March 6, 2006

It -still- feels like just yesterday doesn't it. I moved to Littleton shortly after Thomas's death. Less than a month after November, my car and identity were stolen and I became stressed out at work.. I moved to Littleton to get away from it all. I know that crime doesn't stop simply because you leave a city like Colorado Springs- but I CAN say I am so much happier up here.



Not a day goes by that I don't think of Thomas though. I have written a few papers about him for school (ommiting his name for privacy) and if his family would like any of them, simply let me know.



After Thomas's death I told you I didn't want to lose contact with your family and I meant it. I miss you all dearly and I am wondering how you are. Please send me an email sometime to let me know what's up.



I want you to know that Thomas has made me a better person. I have never been so happy to be alive and I am doing great things. Things he would have wanted me to do, because he wanted everyone to be happy. I am happy because of him. I know this doesn't take the pain away from you- but I just thought you should know.



I love you Thomas Kinslow and miss you so very much...

Lorna Digan

March 5, 2006

Hi! It has been a long time since I last wrote, but that does not mean that I forgot. I just wanted to wish the Kinslow family a Happy Valentine's Day. To Tommy: Happy Valentine's Day! I know you are enjoying it up in the sky. We think about you all of the time. Just keep on watching over everyone. We miss you, Tommy. Love from us all.

Ashley Colborn

February 14, 2006

Frankie and family, I don't even know if you remember me at all. My Mother was Shirley Kinslow Shaw, Frankies Dads sister. Uncle Tommy called my Dad and told him about your tragic loss, when he was able to. I cannot imagine your loss. I have 3 girls of my own and the loss of a child has got to be the most heart breaking event in a life time. May God be with you all as you work thru the unimaginable. From what I have read here Tommy was a great guy with many friends and much to live for.I wish I could have known him. Memories are a blessing and something to cherish and hold dear. I am so sorry for your loss. May God be with you.

Connie Jo (Shaw) McClendon

February 9, 2006

Dear Kinslow Family,



I do not know you nor did I know Tommy, but for some reason I was so touched by the article in The Gazette (Colorado Springs) on December 22, 2005, concerning Tommy's death. Such a tragic loss! What a fine young man Tommy must have been! I am sure that you have many good memories of him. My deepest sympathy to you. You are in my thoughts and prayers. I only wish there was something more I could do to ease your pain.



Sincerely,

J. Houthoofd

December 23, 2005

Dear Pam, Frank and Mindy,



I don't know if you will remember me, I'm Scott and Roisin's mom - Pam you were the best babysitter ever, I don't know how I would have been able to go back to work when Roisin was born without you. I remember Tommy so well, he was such a beautiful little boy. I can't tell you how shocked and sorry Dave and I are that you have lost your precious son. Please get in touch when you feel up to it - may God bless and keep you all during this tragedy.



Love



Rose, Dave, Scott and Roisin Norvell

719-534-0812

Rose Norvell

December 15, 2005

Hello All. Its that time of year when school is winding down, and finals are here. I was thinking about how I was going to do my psychology homework when I remembered the beginning of the semester.

James, Tommy, and I went to the Hookah Bar one night. I had a lot of psych. homework to do, so I brought it with me. I was working on it, but I had such a horrible time trying to get through it, because it had a lot of math. I am NO math wiz whatsoever, and just as I was going through it, Tommy asked what I was doing. I explained to him about what I had to do, and he offered to help me. I thought that was a really sweet thing to do. And James kept saying that Tommy was a math genius-geez, Tommy, I need you now (I have a huge psych. statistics homework that deals a lot with math, lol.) Of course, we did not work on my homework. Instead we played UNO and talked until we all decided that it was time to go home. (Because of school and work, you know.)

Tommy, I know that you will help me or bless me with some math skills just so that I can get that homework done! :-)

Love to you all!

Ashley Colborn

December 8, 2005

Tommy, I still can't belive that your gone. I miss you so very much. Because it is the holiday I keep remembering on Christmas morning we would wake up at five in the morning and sit in our rooms together fighting over who was going to wake up mom and dad. Mom and dad would hear us and get up. They would get things ready and call us to come out. We would run down the hall fighting to be the first one to see what santa bought. I know you are watching over us. Tommy thank you for all the great memories. I love you!

Mindy Kinslow

December 7, 2005

Hey tk, how you doing? well thats a dumb question, your doing the best, i know that you have never felt any happier. Mr and Mrs kinslow, if tommy didnt tell you guys me and him were thinking about getting a tattoo together and but now that your not here ill get your tattoo for you. now are your always are going to be with me, always and forever, but i dont need a tattoo to remember you becasue we did so much stuff together i can write a book about us. But when i get the tattoo ill show you mommy, daddy and sister. Oh, and hopfully your parents wouldnt mind coming to the hooka bar with me. love you and ill write you when i get a chance.

james strover

December 7, 2005

Dear Pam, Frank and all the family:



I did not personally know Tommy, but I worked with his Aunt Anne for several years and she talked about her nieces and nephews a lot. She was very proud of their accomplishments. I can sympathize with your pain because in 2003 I lost my two grandsons and my step-daughter within months of each other. The grief was unbearable and only time could somewhat heal the void they left. I pray that God in his infinite wisdom took Tom home early because he didn't need to experience any more of life on earth. I'm sure he's in a much better place and will always be checking in on his loved ones and sending his love. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Linda Jeffries Brown

December 5, 2005

Ok i hope that i get this right the second time. I wrote you a long time ago but i guess it didnt go through. But tommy ray kinslow, im going to miss you alot and i hope that your missing your best freind as much as i miss you. I know that you will watch over me and make sure that i do me best in life. For people who dont know, me and tk became best freinds when every body went off to college, me and tom played basketball. Later on and life me and tom have discovered a hooka bar. We didnt know what to exspect but all we new that there was belly dancers, and were guys so, what the hey. So i can say that we had added a new adventure to our lives. So playing basketball every wensday at hillside, hooka after words then hooka maybe four times a week.. Its really hard now that we spend so much time together and know your an angel, we did everything together. There is nobody to hang out with, well except for my wife (ashley) and my brother nathan. I dont have anybody to beat me in madden nomore. I will have to take your spot and be the king. Tom i know that you always tried your best around me, and i always tried to do my best but there was alot of things that you was really good at i would never have a chance. Like bowling, tom was so good that if he was losing by three or more strikes he will come back and beat you by five or more. I dont get it, lol. There are so many memories that i will never forget about us, if i put them down in your guess book there would'nt be enough room for anybody else. But i miss you alot and im still waiting for you to knock on my door saying " are you ready to go smoke some hooka". Like red said " open does gates for him", well open them for all your freinds and you better be there to open it for me..... love you tommy, tom,tk. your always be my boy.

james strover

December 3, 2005

Yes, this is my second entry, and trust me, there are many more to come. I was talking to James the other day, and we thought that since this will be on for the year, we will write down our memories of Tommy in it.

I was driving on I-25 yesterday, and I looked over to see Champions. You see, I have never gone put-put golfing or anything like that, and Tommy and James both thought that it would be a great idea for the three of us to go. I was a little reluctant, but I did finally give in. We took James' car, if I remember right, and drove up there. Tommy was nice enough to pay for us to go to the driving range. We went up, standing side by side, and they started to hit the balls. Okay, I had no idea how hard this was going to be, so I figured I would be alright. No sir...I was horrible. Swing after swing, I missed the ball. Tommy and James just watched intently, sneaking a little laugh here and there, watching me look like a fool out there. I was trying so hard, and they were laughing, but it made me laugh too. When I finally started to actually hit the balls, they had already used most of them, and I just remember feeling so proud that I hit one. But compared to those two, they had me beat BAD.

We went to the batting cages afterwards, and being the chicken that I am, I just stood and watched the guys go in and hit the baseballs.

We left kind of late, and when we got to our house, Tommy got into his car, waving good-bye. We had agreed to do something again in a few days...probably go to the Hookah Bar.

I had so much fun that day, and though the guys laughed at how funny I looked, both of them tried to help me.



I just wanted to share that memory. That was the first time I went, and we haven't gone since, though we had made plans to do it again.

And I know that since I wrote this, Tommy is just shaking his head and laughing about that day.

Ashley Colborn

December 2, 2005

I didn't get the opportunity to get to know Tom better, I only had short conversations when he would come over to the house to hang out with James and Ashley or just James. He was a very polite and courteous. I want to thank you for the honor and priviledge to be one of Tom's pall bearers. Mine and my families prayers are with you and yours. If there is anything you need call on us anytime night or day and we will try and help.

Lee Colborn

November 30, 2005

To Tommy's family: I was in a class with Tommy at PPCC, and while I didn't know him well at all, I've seen how painful it is for parents to lose a child just at the point where they're about to take off and fly. My condolences to all of you. This is very sad.

Sally Wilhite

November 30, 2005

I meet Tom in middle school. When him and Red would be together. Went all the way through high school with him. He was such a great guy. We will all remember him for all the great things he has done. Even though he aint hear with us anymore he is hear in spirt. Tom we will miss you!!! He was a great guy. I just remember he was there for people when you just called on him. But Tom we will keep you in preyer and your family. and I am so sorry to hear about this too.



Jennifer Hernandez-Earle

Jennifer Hernandez-Earle

November 30, 2005

i remember tom as being such a nice person. He was always there when you needed him and always smiling. He will be missed.

Cora Hughes

November 29, 2005

To the Kinslow Family:



My deepest and most sincere condolences to your family.

It will not be the same without Tommy around (especially when you're used to seeing him and James attached at the hip. (-:)

Tommy kept James out of trouble, and probably me too. Tommy had helped me and James out when we were out of sorts, and I will miss his mentoring and help. He was so wonderful to me, and us.

We will always remain in touch with you guys, and we will help each other get through the rain and to a sunny day.





To Tommy:



You have left us too soon, but I know I, and James, will see you again. We love and miss you so much. Watch over us Tommy.

Ashley Colborn

November 29, 2005

Dear Pam & Frank,



My heartfelt sympathy goes out to you and your family. There are no words that I can offer to ease your pain. Know that Tommy is in a much better place and that you are in my thoughts and prayers.

JoAnn Heel

November 29, 2005

Thomas,

I know you are in a beautiful place. But, I will miss seeing you the rest of the semester in my class and in the halls of PPCC where lots of people cared about you. To Tom's family, you are in my heart and prayers.



Sharon (math teacher at PPCC)

Sharon R. Butler

November 28, 2005

Pam and Frank,



A child's life is so precious to a parent because it can never be replaced. We are deeply sorry to hear that Tommy's life was ended so suddenly and tragically. May the love and warmth of his soul live on in your hearts and memories for all eternity.



Sincerely, the staff at OSA

Oral Surgery Associates

November 28, 2005

I remember alot about Tom being that he is one of my best friends. I remember getting suspended together in middle school for fighting, and again getting in trouble for skipping school. I remember the high school basketball team when we had the same shoes, going to six flags, High school Prom, football games, and just being there for me. Tom you will really be missed and no one will forget you! One of the best people I know and a great family. Open the gates up for me man.

Red Deems

November 28, 2005

Frank,All my thoughts and prays go out to you and your Family.May God be with you and your family.

Donald Nault

November 27, 2005

I worked with Tommy’s Dad beginning in 1995. I met Tommy a short time later. I have spent a little time over the years with him. I helped him with his first subwoofer in his car and a stereo. I remember thinking this kid is sharp! He was a very kind soul, a little quiet at times when I was around. His dad would always tell me about how he was doing in school and sports. I always could tell how proud Frank and Pam were of their kids. My jaw is still dropped over the sudden loss of Tommy. I know he is an a better place, and he will be missed by many. My thoughts and prayers go to the whole Kinslow family. I thank them for the opportunity to meet Tommy. Stay strong! May God be with you all!

Dave Ross

November 27, 2005

Our family will dearly miss Thomas and we can't believe such a terrible thing could happen to such a wonderful young man. Our blessings for healing go out to your family for your loss.

We knew Thomas through his work place. He was always kind and had a wonderful smile each time we visited the store. He was like another part of our family. We were always joking and laughing with him as he tried to be helpful and professional.

Your son was an amazing young man in manners and sincerity. We will miss him. We will keep him and your family in our prayers. I thank God for giving us the chance to get to know Thomas.

Donna Brown

November 27, 2005

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