Paul Humphrey Obituary

Dear friends,
Thank you for your kind words about Paul Derek. I miss him terribly. He struggled so bravely and it still seems there could have been something different we could have done to help him. But he knew he was loved, imperfectly as we all are, but dearly.

My deepest sympathies to your family in the loss of Paul. He was a cheerful genius and I'll never forget him. God's peace to you all.

I can't remember a time when I looked over at Paul without seeing him already smiling. I mostly had small talk with him --him telling me about his new bike, new apartment, and such, but he was one of the friendliest faces at work. He is missed.

Dear Roger and Carol-Jean,
Rikki and I are so saddened to hear about your son Paul.
Our sympathies are with you. May God comfort you.

Sincerely,
Rikki and David Sudikoff

To those of you who knew our beloved son, Paul Derek, and have left your kind thoughts and words, thank you. We appreciate your expressions of support. He will be greatly missed by all of us. Our prayer is that maybe, somehow, more can be done for those suffering with a similar illness. His was a 15 - 20 year struggle and he had come a long ways. But he was tired. We know he now is in the loving arms of God.

Paul was a smart guy. He was someone I looked up to at TL as I was able to see him a bit through Joanna's eyes. You were a wonderful family to be around when I was a young girl and I'm sorry such a tragedy has occurred. I will think of Paul, and all of you, fondly - as I always have. I wish you well.

Dear Uncle Roger and Aunt Carol-jean,
Paul was a dear cousin of ours who will certainly be missed. He was always kind and loving towards me and everyone in my family. I envied his intelligence, yet Paul never acted better than me or any of us. He was just one of the kids. Always up for some fun, I liked his positive attitude and how he got along with all of us. I remember how Paul would smile and shrug his shoulders when we would suggest something to do as a group...as if to say, "Sounds good, let's go!" Paul's smile was the best! I am so sad for him that his last several years were such a struggle due to mental illness. It sure doesn't seem fair. Paul certainly gave it his all for many years though. He gave it his absolute best. I will dearly miss my cousin, Paul here on this earth, but know I will be with him again someday in heaven. What a great Bagley reunion that will be! Much love, Martha

We too MIss our dear Build Engineer Paul Humphrey.

We hope your memories bring you comfort at this difficult time. We will all miss Paul. He was very smart & talented and such a friendly cousin.

My deepest sympathy to you, Aunt CJ, Uncle Roger, Joanna and family. Paul was a dear, sweet person. He struggled bravely, as did you all, to fight the consequences of his mental illness. I will treasure many happy memories spent with your Paul and your family. May you be comforted by your memories and by the circle of friends and family that surrounds you with love. Love, Rosemary and family

Dear Roger and Jean:
The news that your son Paul commited suicide was a shock. Brenda and I met Paul at the Gusciora's home a few years ago when he seemed to be in better spirits. We offer you and your family our deepest sympathy and prayers.

We worked with Paul briefly and remember his enthusiasm and smile.

Jean and Roger,
I'm so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you at this difficult time.
Paul Millner

I would like to extend my deepest sympathy to Paul's family and to thank them for being open about his mental illness and suicide. A very high proportion of suicide is related to mental illness and it is only by talking openly about both of these things that we can change how they are viewed in our culture. Thank you again - my heart goes out to you.

From the mother of Kelsey, who died at 19 by suicide related to schizophrenia.

I worked with Paul for a few years. Although technically gifted, Paul was very approachable. He would answer your question not with the impatience typical of those as gifted as he but would instead start with a brief smile that said he was pleased to be the one to tell you how it all works. He was generous with his time (staying after hours once to help me set up a web connection for home use at a time when very few people knew how). We all missed him when he got sick and had to leave.

I moved to Terra Linda in '85 and spent my senior year with Paul. He and I shared a lot of classes that year, and he is one of the few people with whom I really connected. We developed a mutual respect for each other quickly, as our love of higher math brought us together. But it was his gentle disposition and kind nature that really drew me to him.

I lost touch with Paul sometime after college, but never forgot him. My deepest condolances on Paul's loss. He will be missed.