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The Three Boys
When he was just 4 years old, Rob Higley moved to Ridgefield, Conn., and soon made friends with three other little boys: Carl and Erik Abrahamson and Dan Kish. When he was 8, Rob's family moved away. But he kept his friends.
In fact, he built his life around them, said his wife, Vycki Higley. He decided to go to the University of Connecticut because one of his pals was going there too, and they could room together. Through his old friends, he met his wife and her parents, who also lived in Ridgefield.
"The boys," as Mrs. Higley calls them, went mountain biking together and took their families camping every summer.
Though his jobs in the insurance business took them all over the country during their seven-year marriage, the Higleys always dreamed of moving back to Connecticut, "close enough so he could be around these guys all the time," Mrs. Higley said. Last spring, their dream came true when Mr. Higley got a job at Aon in the World Trade Center. He started work there on June 11.
Mr. Higley was 29 when he died. His three dear friends are godfathers to his daughters, Amanda, 4 1/2, and Robyn Elizabeth, who was born on Nov. 3.
Profile published in THE NEW YORK TIMES on January 13, 2002.
The last time Robert Higley II and his wife Vycki discussed names for their second child, they were leaning toward Lauren Elizabeth. Instead, Vycki, who is eight months' pregnant, will name their daughter Robyn, in memory of her husband, who was killed in the World Trade Center attacks.
But Robert Higley, an insurance executive, wasn't just about to become a new father. He was moving into a new home in Fairfield, Conn., and had a new job with Aon Risk Management Services. Though he had been there just three months, he had recently received a promotion to run a national campaign and was in the middle of training when the first plane hit the north tower. Higley, who worked on the 92nd floor, called Vycki and said, "I'm in the other building and they're starting to evacuate." It was an agonizingly short conversation.
"He was wonderful, fun-loving, sarcastic and humorous," said Vycki, who went to New York with her 4-year-old daughter, Amanda, to provide DNA samples. He was also a man who loved gadgets and a devoted New York Yankees fan. The night before his death, he waited in the rain with six of his friends for more than two hours before the game was canceled.
Looking back, Vycki is thankful they spent the previous weekend connecting with friends and family. Instead of unpacking moving boxes, they went to a festival. Robert helped a relative set up her college dorm room, and the Higleys ate dinner with Vycki's family both Saturday and Sunday. "Three of his best friends--whom he has known since he was 4-- live in a five-minute radius," said Vycki. "Now I know how much they love (Amanda). It's a relief to know I have that."
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Remembering Rob Today
We haven't forgotten
Thomas Reed
Friend
September 11, 2023
Almost came to be with my boys, Todd and Rob. December was in Hospice but that inner strength came through again and I lived. So now live in New Iberia, La. and watched the memorial again, shed the tears then the smile as to how lucky I was to have them although too short in time. Love ya Dad
Doug Higley
Father
October 27, 2019
We remember although we did not have the privilege of knowing him! His dad went to the college I attended. I did not really know his dad but the one thing I remember was when his dad would lead singing in chapel. 9/11 touched us all whether we knew each other or not.
Lois Duncan
Acquaintance
September 22, 2019
Remembering Rob - we haven't forgotten
Thomas Reed
Friend
September 12, 2019
I think of Rob every year on the anniversary. I went to UCONN and worked with Rob and Carl in the Jungle cafeteria. He was always looking out for others and I was very sad to hear he was lost on 9/11, but not surprised at all to hear that he was looking out for others that day. I remember one day I arrived to work explaining that I had just given up 2 tickets for the UCONN game in the NCAA tournament in Cincinnati because I didn't have anyone to drive there with. He nearly shouted at me, oh my god, I would have driven you there!! I said I never thought to ask you, what would your girlfriend say about you traveling that far with another girl? Vycki would not care, definitely not if it's for a UCONN basketball game, she would understand completely. So sorry I had not kept those tickets...I think of that story at least once every year, if not more often, and just wanted to share it with your family. I think of all of you often, especially Vycki and the girls growing up without their Dad, it must be so tough.
Jennifer Federico
Friend
September 11, 2019
WATCHED THE MEMORIAL TODAY...SHED THE TEAR...WON'T BE LONG NOW TILL I CAN JOIN MY 2 BELOVED SONS
JOHN DOUGLAS HIGLEY
Father
September 11, 2018
Rob was always happy, friendly, and quick witted at McKinley. I think of him and his family every anniversary of this sad event. God bless Rob and his family.
Randall Grip
Classmate
September 11, 2018
Remembering Rob today
We don't forget
Thomas Reed
Friend
September 10, 2018
We remembered, too.
Spencer & Lois Duncan
September 12, 2017
17 years now but always in my heart. You and your brother Todd are together and probably laughing and plotting. I really miss you guys. Watched the memorial again and shed the tear...love you forever...your dad
John Douglas Higley
September 12, 2017
16 years ago your family lost a dear loved one. You will always be remembered by all your family even those distant family like myself. I may it may not have met you however you are family. May God bless your family and may God bless you.
Christian Poulson
September 11, 2017
Rob, well the memorials are done and we begin our 16th year without you. It hasn't gotten any easier. When your name came across the TV screen I stood, hand over heart and cried those all too familiar tears. Our President has the opportunity to do what is right for you by signing the Jasta Bill May he do so for once. Miss you Boo. Dad
Doug Higley
September 12, 2016
On this the 15th year mark of the terrible event that took a friend and loved one from you all, I want to just take a moment to remember the memories of a loved one. I hope after all these years that he is still remembered. God bless you all.
Christian Poulson III
September 11, 2016
Thank you to friends and family for remembering Rob. I waited a few days to see what was posted. The heartache never goes away but neither does the joys he brought to me. Dad
Doug Higley
September 16, 2014
Always think of you and your family at this time!
Lois Duncan
September 12, 2014
You would be so proud of your brave daughter Amanda today. She showed such strength, sitting in her classroom while the principal spoke words of remembrance for those who were lost on this day 13 years ago. She took some private time out to remember you with smiles and tears. And then she went back to the business of living, secure in the truth of your love for her, knowing that is what you would want her to do. God Bless you and all of your loved ones.
September 11, 2014
Remembering my friend
Thomas Reed
September 11, 2013
May God Bless the Higley Family and Protect All from Evil Around Us.
Rudy Gherghel
September 11, 2013
I light this candle for all the Higleys. I may not know you all but you all are my family and so I light this candle to pay respect to a lost cousin.
Christian Poulson III
September 11, 2013
I may have never known you cousin however you are family and I feel the loss. I pray that you are in a great place now. All my love to your family. We are related through my Maternal grandfather the late Lorin Higley.
Christian Poulson
September 11, 2013
We live another anniversary to remember how much I loved you.
John Douglas Higley
September 11, 2013
I will always love you...I miss you so. Someday soon I will be with you and Todd...the old bod is wearing out. Dad
John Douglas Higley
August 13, 2013
I grew up in Bermuda and was a friend and classmate of Rob's when we both attended Saltus Junior School there in grade 4, 5 and 6. I remember him as an excellent athlete (especially soccer), and a gifted singer (he was our choir leader's favorite!). I also remember he broke his nose once (playing soccer I think), and he had to wear a nose cast to school...as is typical of young boys, he was teased mercilessly, but he carried himself with grace and confidence and got though what must have been a pretty difficult period in his childhood! I was sad when Rob and his family moved away from Bermuda, and even sadder when I learned through the Saltus alumni newsletter that he had perished on 9/11. I think about him often, fondly remembering the good old days in Bermuda, and I wanted to share this with his family, especially his parents, his wife and his children.
Sean Moran
July 22, 2013
I was very young when rob died. He was a great father to me and a great husband to my mother. If you guesses I'm his daughter. Dad I miss you and I wish we could be together.
Amanda Higley
October 3, 2012
Hi,
My name is Brian Kelly. I knew Rob when we were kids living in Mandeville, Louisiana. My family moved from Mandeville to Bucks county Pennsylvania in 1986. I last saw Rob the summer of 1990. He was at UConn and I was at PSU and he came down to visit. We went to Philly’s Chinatown together.
Being young we lost contact over the years but I have a lot of great memories of Rob. When we were kids we used to provoke the geese on the golf course of Beau Chene in order to get the geese to chase us. Trouble was Rob was twice as fast as me. Man, that guy could run. If it wasn’t for baseball he’d have been a track star. Rob could throw a baseball through a doughnut.
Rob is not forgotten.
Brian Kelly
September 15, 2011
Watching your beautiful daughter on the view. You would be very proud. God bless you and your family. I am going to the memorial next month and will look for your name and pray for you. We will never forget!
Betsy M
September 14, 2011
Dear Rob,
You and Vycki were one of my very first Pet Sitting clients on Waverly Street in Pittsfield. I say a prayer for Vycki and your children everytime I drive by your old house. I know how much you loved your dogs. You were such a kind person. My heart will always be very heavy with sadness. God Bless you and your family. Thank you. Maryann, Reliable Pet Sitting.
Maryann Hyatt
September 11, 2011
Maryann Hyatt
September 11, 2011
Still missing you...
September 8, 2011
I never knew Robert, but I knew of his dad from college days. This is written to simply say I honor his memory and to let his dad know what a gift he gave to humanity through the time his son lived on this earth. We will never forget!
Lois Duncan
March 2, 2011
Even though i was 4 years old when my father was killed to remind my self of him i just think of all the good times we had. i made may good friends through the though life i had. i want to thank my parents, sisters, friends, most important my friend jackson who will always be there for me. my father is gone so is his brother but now their together forever.
Amanda higley
November 4, 2010
When the Mercy Bands first came out after 9/11, I ordered one, not knowning who's name I would receive for my bracelet. I have Robert's name on my bracelet that I wear everyday and have worn everyday since 2001. People still ask me about it and I proudly tell them what little I know about Robert. God Bless
Cindy Farrell
August 29, 2010
Rob,
You stood out in high school as an incredibly funny and sweet guy. You remain in my thoughts and prayers.
Saxon D'Aubin
September 11, 2009
I worked with Rob and was with him that morning...i still cannot understand why some of us made it out and others did not that day. In the 6 brief months that I worked with Rob, we became friends and I think of him and his wife and family every day. I will never forget him.
Mike Dunn
September 11, 2009
Rob,
I am thinking about you today brother. I haven't forgotten. I will never forget all the great times at McKinley.
Chris Eaton
September 11, 2009
You will never be forgot by the American People.
Lori
September 11, 2008
God bless you Rob -
I think about how fun it would be to talk with you about the Red Sox - endless, useless speculation.
Kimberly
September 8, 2008
In memory....
P Tabbernor
November 8, 2006
As I cross-stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
Kristine
October 31, 2006
So very sorry for the loss of this remarkable man. I am sure he is protecting his family with his soft Angel Wings and is looking down with pride.
Ana
September 20, 2006
I will never have the honor of meeting Rob Higley but I have had the honor of meeting Vycki, his wife, and his dear girls, Amanda and Robyn. Thank you, Vycki, for reaching out to Danielle and I in our hour of need and helping us cope with our own tragic loss of my husband, Daniel Martin. In the sea of people who came forward with their condolences and sympathy, your compassion, kindness and embracing of Danielle and I into your home rang loud and true and is remembered daily as Danielle and I weather these difficult months since his sudden death. Amanda- thank you for being such a friend to Danielle! You and your mom are an inspiration to Danielle and I in that you give us hope that we,too, might make a new life together. Sincerely, Lisa and Danielle
Lisa Martin
December 17, 2005
To the Higley Family, I would like to express my condolences to your family on this second anniversary. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I went to UCONN and lived in the same dorm as Rob and was so sad to hear of what happened. I hope it gets easier with each passing day.
Christine Triantafillou
September 11, 2003
I received a pin with Robert's name from the Annapolis Chorale during the Rolling Requiem which was performed last year 9/11/02 at Maryland Hall. This year I wore the pin all day to enable me to share Robert's story with people. The Higley family will always be in my prayers and I intend to celebrate his life years to come especially on this day when he was taken from us.
Virginia Gilbert
September 11, 2003
My dearest Higley Family,
On this the 2nd year since the tragic September 11th attacks I as being a member (well extended member) of the higley clan would like to send my love and my prayers to all of you. Yea I may have met Robert at one of the Higley reunion. You see my grandfather was Lorin A. Higley. So I am related to you all and I would like to extend to you my love and let you know if you need anything please let me know. I will try to help in anyway. My love and prayers are with you my family.
With Love,
Christian Poulson III
Christian Poulson III
September 11, 2003
I picked up a piece of paper with Robert's name and this web address at church one day. We were encouraged to say prayers and remember this person. I just read his bio and I beleive that his family and friends were lucky to have Robert in their lives for the years that they did. I hope you all have a wonderful holiday season and wish you the best of luck and happiness in the new year. My condolences go out to all those who knew and loved him.
Remembering in Prayers
December 19, 2002
Dear Vycki. Amanda, Robyn, and Family: I didn't know Rob, but I've heard so much about Rob and all of you from my daughter, Regina, that I feel as if all of you are family. My heart goes out to you. You'll always be in my prayers.
Prayers and Well Wishes Always;
Glenda Lichaa and family
Staten Island, NY
Glenda Lichaa
October 6, 2002
I go to a small catholic school in Rockville, MD. And recieved a flag with Robert D. Higley on the front. When i recieved this flag from a ceramony at my school i decided to do some research on him, since my job was to pray for him each day. When i found out the love and care he gave to his family and friends i had a great intrest on this kind soul. I write to you to state that he will be in my prayers forever. Robert D. Higley you are my hero
October 3, 2002
I first heard of your story through Kat in Boulder as she and I mourned the loss our nation suffered on September 11, 2001.
Vycki, Amanda and Robyn, you are in my thoughts and prayers.
Sara Knox
September 12, 2002
Dear Higleys:
I would like to express my sincerest condolences for your loss.I am just writing to let you know that I am praying for you and I will continue to pray for you through the rest of my life. I can not offer you anything substancial, but hopefully you can accept the the promise of my continued prayers. Best wishes and love, Laura
Laura Mesa
September 11, 2002
Dear Vycki, Amanda, Robyn and Family,
There are no words to describe your loss and how much Rob meant to you, your family and friends. May you find love and solace in God’s presence.
One year ago, we lost a brother and a friend. Rob always made people feel special regardless of whether you knew him for 10 years or 10 minutes. As a Lambda Chi brother, we all share a common bond and closeness. One of the lasting memories I have of Rob is the UConn Lambda Chi Alumni football game vs. the undergrads. We beat the undergrads handily and then we all got together, traded stories, laughter and camaraderie. There is a saying that will forever be heard throughout Lambda Chi Alpha, Zeta Lambda chapter…..610 is all I know!
We love you Rob and miss you.
In ZAX,
Don Crouch
Zeta-Lambda 636
Don Crouch
September 11, 2002
In memory of Robert D. Higley II
We did not know Robert, but my husband is the brother of Cam Sutton who works for Aon. I came across this on the internet and wanted to express our deepest sympathy. I have thought of all the lives lost that day and especially of the ones from my brother-in-laws company. It still hurts deeply. Our deepest deepest sympathy to the family.
Nancy Sutton
Robert, Nancy, Dustin and Laura Sutton
September 9, 2002
Rob,
We all loved you. You were a very special nephew, always smiling and full of love. On 9-12, at Vycki's request,with Aimee, I went looking for you downtown. I thought that I would find you, alone at Downtown Beekman. It was so sad that you weren't there. We miss you even though you were a Yankee fan and Connecticut Huskies fan. We love you.
Uncle David, Aunt Deborah, Aimee and Corey.
Deborah Rosenberg
September 5, 2002
I attended McKinley Sr High School with Rob, and we graduated together. I learned of his job at the Trade Center earlier today while reviewing his entry at classmates.com. I am so saddened by this news; I will be sending thoughts and prayers to his wife and two daughters, and to his other family and friends. I remember first hand what a kind person Rob was. I am so sorry for your loss.
Jennifer Ellis
May 5, 2002
Rob Higley, my son-in-law, was very much my son also, as he lived with our family for 4 years before marrying Vycki. We loved to play tennis (it was a long time before he beat me but in the end I couldn't come close to him). We also loved to watch sports together especially when it was his Yanks against my Mets or his Saints against my Giants. When UCONN was playing, we could root together for a change. On 5/5/02 an alumni office at UCONN will be dedicated to his memory. I miss Rob terribly but am blessed to have his 2 beautiful daughters living in my house. God Bless Rob Higley and God Bless America!
Bob Rowley
April 20, 2002
DEAR GOD SHINE YOUR LIGHT ON THIS BEAUTIFUL YOUNG MAN ROBERT D.HIGLEY 11 AND MAY HIS SOUL REST IN PEACE WITH GOD AND HIS ANGELS..GOD BLESS HIS WIFE AND CHILDREN..HIS GOOD FRIENDS AND THE REST OF HIS FAMILY.MAY THEY ALWAYS STAY CLOSE AND NEVER FORGET 9/11/01.GOD BLESS AMERICA NEW YORK AND CONNECTICUT.AMEN
February 2, 2002
I only met Bob a couple of times during his time in the Berkshires. When I first met him he was promoting the services of the insurance company he worked for.
After reading some of the other notes about Bob I was happy to see I was right about him. He was a good, hard working honest person. I feel privileged to have known such an good person.
Don Rochelo
January 25, 2002
Just yesterday I read THE NEW YORK TIMES biographical sketch on Mr. Higley on the victims list. I was so impressed at what must have been a great life, lived to the fullest, and his classy style. I wish to express to his widow and children my deepest sympathy and my personal hope that they will find comfort in the memories Robert left behind in each of you and, especially, because each of you carries him in your innermost selves. God bless you and keep you in His care.
Jose P.Bove
Lakeland, Florida
The Rev. Jose Bove
January 14, 2002
Rob and I were best friends when we were kids living in Bermuda. We loved to explore the island and find new hideouts to spy on people from while pretending we were FBI agents. Rob was my only friend who hated to wear shorts in the summer. I haven't talked to him since my family moved away when I was eleven but I never forgot our friendship. It was a shock to hear of his death. I send my love and condolences to his wife, daughters, family and friends. I am so sorry.
Love,
Nicole
Nicole Fyvie
January 14, 2002
The Higley's lived next door to my family in Bermuda and Robert and my sister, Nicole, became good friends. I remember one special afternoon when Robert invited both Nicole and I to join his family on their boat. To be included in my older sister's world was a very special thing and Robert was always such a fun little boy. I also have a vivid memory of Nicole and Robert dressing up as the band Kiss for Halloween, complete with elaborate face paint (there is a great photo of this in a family album).
My parents called both of us tonight after reading Robert's tribute in the Times and we felt such sadness. I am wishing you peace in this time of darkness.
Erica Fyvie
Erica Fyvie
January 13, 2002
We are deeply sorry for your loss of Robert. May his life and love live on in his children and in those who love him. Our hearts cry with you.
America Cries
We see your sorrow-
and our hearts cry....
We can not erase your pain
but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-
-the American people-
are beside you.
We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,
the strength that gives you courage,
and the words to lighten your spirits.
And when we are left speechless
may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts
to ease your sorrow.
May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-
-the American people-
face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn
Dixon, IL
Teresa Jahn
December 29, 2001
I was best friends with Rob when we lived in Bermuda as kids. I just found out that he was part of the tragedy of September 11. My thoughts go out to his family and friends. My mother and father would also like to express their sympathies. My father remembers coaching the little league teams that Rob and I were on together while my mother would drive us to baseball practice. We would change out of our school uniforms into our practice gear in the backseat while driving through Bermuda.
Troy Varney
December 21, 2001
Rob was one of the reasons I joined the Lambda Chi Alpha fraternity.
I will never forget the faith in friends and family Rob constantly demonstrated, nor the passion with which he'd play ball. I will never forget the hope in his eyes when he'd speak of Vycki, nor his quiet strength during times of stress.
I can only reiterate what other brothers have said; he was purely the best of us, we loved him deeply.
Rob Higley will be missed, but never forgotten.
In ZAX,
John Collins Z/\ 635
John Collins
October 31, 2001
God Bless~!
Aon-Peoria, IL.
Kimberley Hess
October 29, 2001
Rob was my friend. One of the ones that I wanted to see more often. One of the ones that I never argued with, or felt distant from. I was one of the "old guys" when he was "new" and that made our bond special, because he let me pretend that I had something to offer him in the way of advice. Ask anyone, if one of us learned from that relationship, it was me. I look at my Gail and my young sons and I see how much my life has come to look like the on Rob had the whole time. I am glad that while I was acting a fool, and thinking myself sage, Rob was living the sound, honest, happy life that is his legacy. I am proud to say that I have followed HIS path, despite the fact that I started mine first.
I am sure that some day we will follow him into a better place, and that he will once again show me the way. May he continue to be our lamp, and light our way.
Kevin Krois
October 26, 2001
Vicky. May God protect and bless you and your family. My heart aches when trying to imagine the events you have been through, but smiles when I think of the times I was able to enjoy Rob's company!
Chadi Noujaim
October 25, 2001
My thoughts and prayers go out to those who knew Rob. Especially Vycki, Amanda, Robyn, and the rest of his family and friends. I did not get to know Rob as well as some, but yet i am glad to know him the way i did. He was a very dedicated son, brother, husband, father, friend, and LXA brother. Rob was, is, and will always be someone we all should strive to be like.
Nick Cominale
October 25, 2001
With heartfelt sympathy. I will never forget this sad and tragic loss.
Debbie Wilson
October 25, 2001
I met Rob at our alumni barbeque in Fall 2000. He hung out for that day and night, and I remember thinking how friendly he was, and how fun it was hanging out with him. A great alumni will be missed.
ZAX,
Brian Brady
Z/\ 703
Brian Brady
October 24, 2001
I had the privilege of meeting Rob and Vycki years ago in college.
He struck me as a good person, a gentle soul and very much in love with Vycki.
I saw him live and grow with his best friend Carl; the bond of friendship that would last a lifetime.
I had the honor of helping to initiate both Rob and Carl as my brothers.
When I was away in the service, I heard Rob had finally married Vycki, a dream come true.
The last time I saw him, we joked and laughed, mostly at me and he talked about his family and his life.
You could see the pride and joy he had when he showed pictures of Amanda.
When I saw Amanda I could see Rob in her, the joy of life and of being with people.
Robyn will be blessed the same way; both have a father who loves them with all his heart.
I am a better person for having known Rob, Vycki and their family.
In ZAX
TReed
Thomas Reed
October 24, 2001
The greatest loss is his love that has left this world, but now resides on the other side. A true brother among brothers, we will miss him.
A Fellow Brother
October 24, 2001
Rob was a great Lambda Chi Alpha Brother. He will always be remembered in our hearts and in our minds as being that and more.
In ZAX,
Brett Paulson - Z/\ 702
Lambda Chi Alpha
Brett Paulson
October 24, 2001
I only new Rob for a short time when he worked with us through Keystone Insurers Group. He was always talking about his family and how much he loved them and often called to talk to his daughter in between meetings. He was a kind and gentle person and will be missed.
Cindy Anderson
October 24, 2001
Rob's love for Vycki and Amanda was evident in everything he did at work. If we wanted to see him light up we only had to mention Amanda's name. I worked with Rob for only a short time at Aon but the impression he left is everlasting. The very best to you Vycki, Amanda and Robyn.
Gale
October 23, 2001
Vycki: I worked in the WTC (risk consulting) and retired from Aon last year, so I never had a chance to meet your husband. As a fellow "New Fairfielder," I hope you'll contact me if I can help with anything.
Regards. Michael D. Dangelo
Michael Dangelo
October 22, 2001
[From Lambda Chi Alpha Fraternity Alumni at UCONN...] I met Rob early in his college and fraternity years, but he was already a sincere young man. His loyalty to LCA was second only to his attention to a young woman...his future wife and future family...he had his priorities in excellent shape. ZL 488
Ray
October 17, 2001
We love you, Vycki. Amanda and Robyn, too. Our daily thoughts are with you and we had tears in our eyes as we read the article about Rob. Robyn will undoubtedly share more than Rob's name. We are looking forward to seeing his spirit and fun-loving nature in her!
Emily Day
October 15, 2001
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