Steven Paterson Obituary

I have always wanted to express my feelings of that morning. Stevens Brother Joseph was on my boat on lake Tahoe for a fishing trip when he got the call about his brother. I still shed more than one tear every year on September 11 2001. So sorry for your family and the family's of the other lives lost that day.

Steve, you didnt die in vain that terrible morning in Lower Manhattan. My heart goes out to you and your loved ones..

In Memory with
Honor & Respect.

It's been 15 years Stevie but in all that time you've never been forgotten. I hope you can hear Joe and I when we say hello on our frequent runs through Valleau, or when I run past your old house. Or when we retell one of the many funny stories of fun times together....they come up at the oddest times but always make us laugh. The most recent was when you managed to be in 2 table shots at our reception and why on earth you held a potato up in front of your eye?

Just wanted to let you know you're always being thought of fondly.

Hoje que se completam 15 anos.... Um sentimento indiscritível quando se vista o memorial

We visited the 911 memorial today, June 14th, 2016. We walked and saw Steven Bennett Paterson's name and googled him. We wanted to know more about him. We said a prayer for his family! His wife and twins. We don't know him or his family, but wanted to say a prayer!

My Dear Friend,
Just a note to say you are missed. I think about you and your family often. Remember, in high school, the bus trips to Vernon Valley? You thought you could teach me to ski? You took me to the top of the mountain in hopes that I would figure it out. So many laughs. 1980 something, we had such a fun dinner in manhattan. You in your suit and tie, big man on wall street? I had a great time. Your smile, laugh and love for life; you are truly missed. God bless your Lisa, Lucy and Wyatt.
Linda Benedetto-Deering

You are missed today and so proud to have known you! Love you and your wonderful family!

Sue Sofka

Steve was the epitome of cool. He was a senior, I was a freshman. I don't even remember how we met- my mom knew his mom from church or nursery school- My mom always said what a beautiful voice she had. I know Steve and I really connected through music. I have so many great memories of hanging out with him- watching Bowie on SNL, singing TVC15, in a dress. Wearing out the first B-52's record or Look Sharp, Joe Jackson. I remember watching football together- I remember going to the Town Theater, to a midnight show of the movie Altered States(in an altered state!) We clung to each other through the whole movie! My favorite memory is from my sophomore Homecoming dance. The guy who asked me, actually won the title of Homecoming King that night, and I won sophomore attendant, but the best part of the night, by far, was, when out of no where, Steve came flying on to the dance floor in front of me, dressed in a green blazer, vest, plaid pants, and the pointiest shoes you ever saw! He was a preppy, punk, rock star! The dj was playing Brand New Cadillac, by the Clash- we danced all night until our feet hurt! It was magic! He was my first male friend, the coolest guy I knew, who loved music and shoes as much as I did! My biggest regret is that we lost touch and I never got to know him as a husband, and father- because I am sure he was a rock star at that too! I hope when I get to those Pearly Gates, Steve is waiting in those plaid pants and pointy shoes, and our heavenly Father has some Clash cued up on the turntable! Love you, miss you, God Bless your whole family.

I hope your family finds comfort in the many thoughts that go out to the family Im sure Steve will always be missed.and the memories cherished forever.

Stevie,

We're coming up on the tenth anniversary of 9-11 and I am thinking about you non-stop. So much has changed over the last ten years. So many things I wish I could have shared with you. So many moments...

I have such vivid memories of the last time we were together: on the beach in New Jersey. It was a fantastic day. It wasn't too hot but hot enough to enjoy a swim in the ocean. Lucy had no fear. I remember Wyatt and Dad swimming together. It got chilly that night but we were all sitting outside enjoying the last few moments of summer. After dinner, Lucy was running after Brian on the beach, Wyatt was chasing after the two of them and I was chasing all of them not wanting anyone to fall and get hurt. ;) You know me...

When you left, you left behind a gaping hole...in the family and in our hearts. What do we do with that? I haven't been able to fill it. I don't think I ever will. I just try to make up for it with love from the family. There is so much love for you and for each other. It's the only thing that keeps me from losing it.

Miss you Stevie...
You're always in our hearts.

Steve,
the July 4th holiday weekend always brings back memories of you being here along with your brothers George and Joe and your sister Lois..and all the other first and second cousins for my heritage July 4th weekend party .. of our close immediate family and friends of 100 plus! .. it was the last time I saw you and the last party of that size.. that holiday weekend before 9/11. Always you were full of life.. your children Wyatt and Lucy ..playing with the rest of the cousins in the pool and watching the fireworks. I miss you as we all do.....your laughter and impish contagious smile.
we will never forget where we all were on that fateful day..of the media news being played over and over but to me it was that email i opened and read early the following morning sent by Lois...two lines...."You may not be aware that Steven recently switched jobs to Cantor & Fitzgerald. We have not heard from him." my life views were changed permanently from that point on.
We all miss you and being remembered goes without saying..
Always in my heart Steven,
Love Christine

Dad,
It's been eight years. A tough, eight years without you. Things have changed, and have become different. I miss you. Sometimes if something happens, and reminds me of you, I say to myself "Oh, I have to tell him that!" but then I realize, I can't. You know the reason why. For me, I have been just understanding further details to what happened that day, and it's been a hard road for me to deal with. I wish I could sweep my feelings under a rug, but I know that won't help. What bothers me SO much though, is that I feel like I'm forgetting you, because I haven't seen you in so long. I would give anything, just to talk to you, or give you a hug. When I go to Aunt Lois's house, she has so many pictures of you! But I really like it. It makes me feel closer to you, as if almost your actually with me there. I don't like the fact though, that mom says we have to move though what happened, because I don't want to. I never will. I know down inside mom wishes you could be here all the time, and so do Wyatt and I. I miss you and no day goes by without thinking of you. I miss you dad, but I'll see you again. I love you.
Love everlasting,
Lucy <3
(P.S. Watch out for mom, Wyatt, Mimi and I)

Steve,

You will not be forgotten

I think of Steve often. On this 8th anniversary of 9/11 I would like to share my thoughts of him. We became good friends working together at Credit Suisse. If I had to use only one word to describe Stevie, it would be "passionate". He was passionate about every aspect of his life, sports(playing and spectating), music, movies, work, food and most of all his relationships. His dedication to his family and friends was inspirational. Stevie was so engaging a personality, if you met him once you liked him immediately and never forgot him. The one thing I miss the most is sharing a laugh with Steve. We shared a similar sense of humor, and we would frequently make each other laugh hysterically. When I'm saddend by his loss I remember a quote from Theodor Seuss Geisel (Dr. Seuss) "Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened". I'm very thankful that Stevie's life "happened" and our paths crossed. He was a very special person. I believe he is in a better place. I pray Lisa, Lucy, Wyatt, Joe, George, Lois, all his family and friends that God will grant them the peace, serenity and courage to get through the difficult times and enjoy the good times. God Bless

09/11/09 - remembering you today.
-diane siclare severson

Dad,
I miss you so much. I hope your safe in heven. i love you and you are always a part of me.
love
lucy

Steve,
Hope all is well in heaven as I have no doubt that is where you are and I'm quite sure you my friend are the life of the party. Well believe it or not I had a baby. I have a son now 6 months old. Dawson he is super cool. Lisa we really should get together I'm down here in Aventura FL. I would love to hear from you. Steven you are missed. Myra

In remembrance....

As I cross-stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.

Steven,
One of my best early memories of you was at the age of 8 wearing a Met's hat.. jazzed about the Mets when most of our family are Yankee's fans But you LOVED The "MET'S"......YOU and my dad had a game of catch at your parents house along with me..and you were talking stats/players with my dad who loves the Mets just a shade less then me,Maddy and my mom..
WE all sang "Meet the Met's Song"
I stayed home on your 5th anniversary and watch/heard your name being called and thinking was it 5 years already? That you were here upstate in New Paltz....at my annual July 4th party along with Lisa, Wyatt, Lucy plus all our cousins and friends....over 80 of us gathered together to watch the fireworks display in my back field Such FUN and family bonding....That your brother Joe came up from Virginia with his usual bushel of clams. Your sister Lois and family, Mike and Pat from Jersey along with cousins Coz and Caroline All our children bonding. It was such a TREAT to have you there for the first time....it was just a great day, such wonderful memories.. who would of thought it would be the last time I would get to see you and laugh along side you.........and HOW YOU MADE US LAUGH! With that devilish smile of yours! Your photo is at my desk at work....I view it every day....Our town has a flag with all the victims of the WTC on it...If flies proud and strong....in your reflection of your dreams that never came to be. THE MET"S are having a great season! I know it is because you and my dad are together up there...."angels in the outfield" for sure! I left a Met's bobble head doll this past Monday at the memorial service in my town...Others left Flowers in rememberance but at the last moment as I left the house it just popped into my head to bring "Mr. Met"
Yeah, Steve would like this, is what I felt....as YOU GOTTA BELIEVE.....and while I don't understand it..I gotta believe that your death was not in vain and there is HOPE for us left here. All of us would give up what ever was asked to bring you back......and knowing that is not possible I personally have taken away from your death, to realize that day to day "junk" will always try to get in our way of truly living life to the fullest. I think of 9/11, I think of YOU and the family you left behind and I think.......Why am I letting this or that get me down, it is trivial compared to what I have...move on Christine.....move on! So, Steven my cousin.. You will be solid in my heart, sharing part of my soul, and as I move on......it will be to a better place for sure.....

Christine

Dearest Steven,

It's been five years but it still hurts as if it was yesterday...I was so touched by John McCann's entry, that I started The Steven B. Paterson Memorial award for special needs children who display your "Heart of a Lion".Thank you so much for your "dream visit", and for letting Joe, Joanna, and I know that you are always around us...So Steven, as Grandma Friscia used to say,"I'll never forget, "I'll never forget"...

All my love and prayers Always, Laura

yo cous,

hope ur playing some stickball up there...went by i.s 24 and the x

is still in the rectangle my man...

im ready for our next game !

THEN WE CAN GO TO THE DELI ,GET THE ORANGE SUN DEW ( WITH THE LEAKY BOTTOM)AND THE BBQ CHIPS !

LOVE U MAN

Not a day goes by that you are not thought of and in our hearts always. We miss you so very much. Say hi to your parents, and Grandma & Grandpa. It must be one heck of a party up there, save me a seat! Keep us safe, my angel, until we meet again.

Lisa,

I met you a few years ago at Robin Horneff. Our daughters took ballet together. I remember chatting with you in the waiting room and you were always very nice and personable. My heart goes out to you, Lucy and Wyatt

Lisa,

Steven and I worked together at Banker Trust and I was sadden to learn about the loss of such a special person. May God bless and take care of you and your family. Always remember that you have a angel watching over you, Lucy and Wyatt.

A friend Anna Hamilton

Please accept my sympathy for the loss of Steve. I lived in Ridgewood when I was a baby - and so everyone from there feels like a brother or sister. I pray that the family is bouncing back and looking forward to a brighter future.

Lisa,

This is Myra.. I just found out today what happened when i saw you on TV and I was beside myself.I am so sorry for your loss. Steve, as we all know was a great boyfriend, fiance, husband and then daddy.He now is a great Angel watching over you and your beautiful chldren.I remember introducing you and Steve to each other at the Montahue Street Saloon. You hit it off immediately. I remember your beautiful wedding at South Street Seaport and the beautiful thank you cards you sent out in black and white. I recall the awesome BBQ'S you had in your home on the first floor in Brklyn Hgts. I remember when the twins were born, then i moved and we lost touch. Please know I am hear for you if you ever need to talk or visit. I am in Miami now. Please contact me.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family,

Love Myra

My deepest sympathy goes out to the family of Steven Paterson. I lived on Mallared St in Hazlet and grew up with Steven. We went to nursery school together at Creative Campus in Hazlet, where his mother worked. He was a great friend thru my growing up years. He was the one who showed me how to get out of my backyard without mom knowing. I'll always remember him for his beautiful smile & his friendly ways.

I hope his family remembers me because I remember what a great family they were. Karen Power (Buono) from Hazlet, NJ

My family have known the Patersons for a long time, I went to school with Lois my brother Rich is good friends with George , I am sorry to hear of your loss, it been a terrible year with all of the memories that come and go . Stay strong and God Blees you and your family.

i think i've known you the longest -- 40 years - but i am just one of many, many friends who will miss you. Take care, old friend ....until we meet again...

love,

Dear Lisa,



I am very sorry for your lost. I never met your husband Frank, but his brother George was always talking about him to me on the beach of the Surfrider Beach Club last summer. If he was anything like George then I know that he was a fine man and a great husband & father. I just found out this weekend (6/2/02) from George's wife Linda and I hadn't have a chance to talk to George yet, but I did go to Saint Agnes Church to pray for you and your family. May God watch over you and your two beautiful children.

Steve was much younger than me. I grew up with Steve's sister Lois. I also knew his older brothers, Frank & George. Hazlet NJ. When I heard the news from my brother, I was deeply moved. I wanted to reach out and feel for the family. I can not imagine what you all are feeling. Unimaginable. I have been in Ohio for 23 years. Very removed from my childhood in NJ. This tragic event stimulated my memory and I felt a need to make contact with the past. It really pains my heart. I hope and pray you all are doing OK. Much love, Kevin.

Dear Lisa -- very shortly after 9/11 you were interviewed and I wrote down your name and have been praying for you daily since then. Until coming to this site, I didn't realize Lucy and Wyatt completed the family you and Steven started. The three of you will continue to be in my prayers, by name, thru this year. May His comfort be yours in abundant measure. I am so very sorry for your loss.

Lisa,

Through the efforts of Mercy B.A.N.D, I am wearing the name of your dear husband and father of your precious twins on my arm every day. I am praying for you and your family daily the God will continue to sustain you and give you strength to continue to go on and raise your children give your hope for the future. As a wife and mom I can't begin to imagine how your life has changed. Please know that although we do not know each other, I am lifting your up every day to the Lord for strength and protection.

God Bless you, Lisa.

Deanne Umpleby

Steve was a year ahead of me in High School, but we hung around with the same group of friends. Seeing his pictire brought back so many good memories. My heart goes out to his wife Lisa and children.

DEAR GOD SHINE YOUR LIGHT ON THIS BEAUTIFUL MAN...STEVEN B.PATERSON AND MAY HIS SOUL REST IN PEACE WITH GOD AND HIS ANGELS..GOD BLESS HIS WIFE AND TWINS..LOVING FAMILY AND MANY FRIENDS..STAY CLOSE..PRAY...AND NEVER FORGET 9/11/01..GOD BLESS AMERICA AND NEW YORK FOREVER..MAY JESUS AND ST.STEVEN..AND OUR LADY OF MT.CARMEL GREET YOU AT THE GATES OF HEAVEN...AMEN

Dear Lisa,



I found out about Steve's passing last night, when I happened to be watching channel 5, and saw his picture. Needless to say, the tears started all over again. I want to express my deepest sympathy. I knew Steve when I worked in Securities Lending at Swiss Bank. We used to talk on the phone alot due to the business. I seem to remember when he fell madly in love with you, and then when he found out you were pregnant. He was so excited, so in love, and almost became a different person...the happiest guy in the world. I hope that your family can someday return to a normal, happy life; I know that he would want that. You have adorable children, and I'll be thinking about you all for a long time.



Bonni

Dear Lisa,

I met your husband, Steve, I believe in 1984 or 85. My girlfriend at the time invited Steve and his date, (a friend of hers) to dinner at my apt.in Perth Amboy. The 4 of us spent the evening having dinner, playing "trivial pursuit", talking, laughing and just simply having a great time. It was the first and last time I would ever spend with Steve, but what I remember most was his extreme likeablity and sense of humor. In those few short hours I felt like he was a close friend that I had known for years.

I am so very sorry for your terrible loss.

Sincerely,

Frank Wojciechowski

I grew up in Steve's hometown of Hazlet,New Jersey. Although I hadn't seen Steve in quite a few years, I've thought of him often. What I remember about Steve most of all was his love of music, Rock and Roll in particular. I've discussed music with people from all over the world, and few were as knowledgable or enthusiastic about it as Steve was. I will fondly remember the time I got to spend with him. May God bless him and his entire family.I was so terribly saddened to hear of his passing.

Steve and I played Pop Warner football together and remained friendly through high school. We had a lot of laughs and great times together. Although I hadn't seen him in years, I often thought about him and it would put a smile on my face. I was deeply saddened to hear that he was one of the unfortunate people who perished as a result of the events of Sept. 11. I attended Steve's memorial service and although it was extremely sad, I felt great relief to hear what a fine man, husband, father and friend Steve grew up to become. He will be greatly missed by all who knew and loved him, but his legacy will live on forever.

Lisa, Lucy and Wyatt, my thoughts and prayers have been much with you these months on the loss of your much loved husband and dad. His great heart and spirit shows on his wonderful face in the photo. God bless you and I pray you find much comfort in the love of family and friends.

Steve was one of the 30 friends I lost that day. We played high school football together,he was as aggressive as they came, not afraid to bang heads with guys twice his size. When I first heard Steve was among the missing I thought if anyone would find a way out Steve would. As the days went by and the finality of the missing became evident, he must not ever have had the chance. It's so sad it happpened this way, if the cowards who did this came up to him face to face I'd give you 100 to 1 "The Brow" wins. His family can rest assure he has found his way to the front of the Angel line and is watching over them with the Heart of a Lion.

Goodbye My Friend,

God Bless Your Family,

John McCann

What a warm and caring smile Steven has in his picture. May his gusto for life live on in his children. We are very sorry for your loss of Steven. Our hearts cry with you.

America Cries

We see your sorrow-

and our hearts cry....

We can not erase your pain

but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-

-the American people-

are beside you.

We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,

the strength that gives you courage,

and the words to lighten your spirits.

And when we are left speechless

may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts

to ease your sorrow.

May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-

-the American people-

face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn

Dixon, IL

My deepest sympathy for a young,

wonderful life tragically cut so

short

My wife Helen and I send our deepest sympathies to Lisa, Lucy and Wyatt. We are still trying to come to grips with this enormous loss. Steven was a wonderful person who will be missed by all who had the privledge to know him.

I was a high school and college friend of Steven's brother George, and I remember so well That huge grin on Stephen's face as he followed his big brothers around, admiring their every move. I am sure he was as wonderful a dad as his own was, and we will keep his family in our thoughts and prayers.

My deepest sympathy for Lisa, Lucy and Wyatt -- the loss is so great. Steven's memory will live on through his family, friends and loved ones.