John William Bettigole

John William Bettigole obituary, Long Branch, NJ

John William Bettigole

John Bettigole Obituary

Obituary published on Legacy.com by Damiano Funeral Home on Jul. 4, 2025.

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John William Bettigole Obituary
Our dear father John W. Bettigole passed away peacefully on Tuesday, July 1, 2025, leaving
behind a legacy shaped by devotion, integrity, and enduring love.
He lived his life with quiet purpose and deep conviction. He was a man who valued character
over accolades and consistency over spectacle. He held himself to a high standard, not for
recognition, but because it was simply the right thing to do. He carried himself with unfailing
kindness and an ever-ready smile, meeting life's challenges without a word of complaint, no
matter how much he had reason to.
At the heart of it all was his beloved wife, Carmela, to whom he was married for more than five
decades. Their union was a true partnership, loyal, enduring, and full of quiet devotion. When
Carmela passed away in February 2023, a part of him went with her. His love for her never
faded; it simply turned inward, becoming a kind of silent companionship that stayed with him
until the end. Their love was not the kind that needed grand gestures. It was made visible in the
everyday acts of care, loyalty, and presence that defined their life together.
Family was everything to John. To his children, Michael, John, and Pamela, he gave the
greatest of gifts: a childhood marked by stability, warmth, laughter, and the quiet, unshakable
assurance that they were deeply and constantly loved. He led not with lectures, but by example.
From him they learned the value of hard work, the grace of humility, and the courage to take
risks. His seven grandchildren grew up under the same canopy of love, drawn to his steady
presence, his gentle humor, and the way he made each of them feel uniquely seen. He was
their storyteller, their encourager, and their safe harbor. To all of us, he was our compass, our
calm, our quiet place in a noisy world. His joyful spirit formed the backdrop of our lives and
made our house a home.
John found joy in life's simple pleasures, and nowhere was his sense of peace more evident
than at the beach. It was his sanctuary, a place where time slowed and worries faded. He loved
the salt air, the sound of the waves, the feel of warm sand beneath his feet. Whether sitting
quietly by the shore reading his book or talking with a group of family and friends, the beach
brought him calm and clarity. It was a place he shared with his family from the very beginning
and carried within him always.
He never sought praise, but he earned our lifelong respect. He never demanded affection, but
he held our love without question. As we say goodbye, we hold close not only our grief, but our
gratitude for the father he was, the husband he remained, and the man we were lucky enough
to call our own.
John was predeceased by his beloved wife, Carmela, his parents, Maximillian and Mary
Bettigole, his brother James, (Br, Michel Bettigole OSF) his brother-in-law Ray Trepanier, and
his sister-in-law Ann Darrigo.
He is survived by his children and their spouses: Michael and Kathy Bettigole, John and Ivey
Bettigole, and Pamela and Christian Giamanco; his seven grandchildren, Zachary, Ava, Sofia,
Isabella, Maximillian, Sebastian and Margo, his beloved sister, Mary Trepanier, all of whom
remain deeply grateful for the boundless love and quiet strength he gave so generously.
In lieu of flowers, the family asks that you honor John's memory by making a donation to the
American Cancer Society.
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